Anal Sex! Just hearing this makes some people feel so uncomfortable and even in disgust! Many people often associate anal sex with gay men when really all kinds of people do it, from straight to queer. There's often that dumb belief that if anyone enjoys taking it up the ass-they must be gay-WHICH is not true! Everyone has their preferences in bed, from what position they like, to what toys they use and even what hole to stick things in! Why is there even a preference to what hole to fuck? Well first off let's just stick to the basic three holes-vagina, mouth and ass.
Some people might enjoy sticking things in the mouth mainly for the tongue action and the view point. The vagina might be a favorite hole only because it's often the easiest hole to fuck in multiple positions. It also stimulates the vagina walls of the woman, making it easier for her to get horny and wet. The ass however is a hole that many people often shy away from due to taboos, fear and disgust! Let's face it-it is the hole that we basically defecate from. But a key note to know, for men their G-spot lies in this rectal area and for women there's the intense massaging of the muscles. If you've never done anal and want to try it with your partner, here are a few tips to get started with-this goes for both men and women!
1) Use protection
Don't forget to use protection! Face it- we are talking about anal sex here and there are dirty things lingering there! To protect you and your partner from infections and stds, use a condom!
2) Lots of Lubrication
Remember to use lots and LOTS of lubrication! Unlike the vagina that gets lubricated when the female gets aroused, the ass does not do that! Wear finger condoms or a glove to rub the lubrication on his/her hole.
3) Tease it
Once you get the lub on, DO NOT AUTOMATICALLY FORCIBLE STICK ANYTHING IN RIGHT AWAY! Unless your partner have done anal before and is REALLY comfortable and ready for you to stick things in right away-refrain from doing so if this is your first time! Gentle tease your partner's hole by either massaging or tapping its rim. You don't have to use your hand for this, you can "tap/massage" your partner's hole also by using the head of your penis or with a sex toy.
4) Take your time & be gentle
Patience is the key thing here! You can't rush it, if you do, your partner's anal sphincter muscles will tighten up right away and when you try to shove anything up his/her ass, it will painfully hurt-ALOT! You could even possible tear some of the muscles up and make it bleed, making your partner vulnerable to infection. So please take your time!
5) Communicate
Remember to talk to one another! If your partner tells you it hurts-hands off and stop what your doing! Let him/her guide you! Listen to how your partner moans or screech! Be very aware to the sounds he/she is making-don't assume everything is feeling good!
6) Relax
And Relax! If you're both all tensed up,you're both just going to get irritatable with the situation and with each other!Take deep slow breathes and make sure your partner is doing the same! Sometimes when people get nervous, they tend to hold their breathe!
7) Massage the Body
If you find your partner is having a hard time relaxing, go for the obvious and give him/her a body massage. Feel which part of their body has the most tension and gently rub/massage it for them. This should surely help out!
8) Use a Toy
It helps too when you have a sex toy with you, either a dildo or a vibrator. Use the toy to help out with massaging the rectal area. You can also use it to test whether if he/she is becoming more relaxed by slowly and gently pushing the toy into her/him.
9) Keep hand wipes near by
It's always great to keep santized napkins near by too. Come on, it's anal sex and it will get a bit dirty. Also don't forget, before laying your used toys down on anything, use the wipes to clean them first!
10) Be comfortable with the idea
You both have to be comfortable with the idea. If either one of you guys aren't feeling it-no way it's going to happen! If you approached your partner with this, let him/her take their time with the idea. Don't pressure or harrass them about it everyday. They will surely appreciate the time and space you're giving them!
